Three months ago I entered into the special club of Motherhood. If you have given birth you belong to this club too. It doesn’t matter how your little bundle of joy entered the world, we are united in the fact that we are changed forever both physically and mentally.
My dream birth would have taken place outside somewhere under the light of the moon, unmedicated surrounded by my Husband, Doula and Midwife. I pictured an easy transition into the world for my daughter as birth is a natural function of the body. The dawn would break with the soft chirping of birds in the air. A soft breeze and the sweet scent of Winter Daphne in the air. After her birth my baby would rest on my breast, I would be cocooned in my Husbands arms, and I would be filled with emotions of love and fulfillment.
I don’t know about your birth story, but mine did not turn out that way. They say that in the end, the only thing that matters is a healthy Momma and a healthy baby. While that is true, that is not the only thing that matters. Giving birth is a powerful and a transformative experience for every woman and her family. Making it a POSITIVE one filled with feelings of EMPOWERMENT is key in my opinion.
The vehicle to achieve these feelings will look different for every woman. Although I compromised on a few things from my ideal birth story to the one I actually had, I believe that I achieved the end goal. My baby (Faith) was birthed unmedicated after 9 hours of labor in the hospital. I had an intense few hours after transition where her heart rate was dropping with my contractions and I had to get oxygen and IV fluids. I was supported by my Husband and Doula Rachel throughout the process.
Yes, the physical pain was intense, but I was no stranger to pain or endurance being a marathon runner. I even ran my last marathon when I was 17 weeks pregnant. It was the mental fortitude to not give up, to push thru and past the pain, to speak up for myself and for my unborn daughter, and to be stronger than I had ever been in my life previously.
A Moment of Clarity
It isn’t often in life that you get to experience emotions with this intensity. In fact I had only felt it a couple of times before, almost like an out of body experience. I was at the top of Mt. Fuji in Japan, crossing the finish line of my first Marathon, and giving birth to my daughter. Time stands still for a brief moment; you can see the world with a clarity you have never perceived before.
These are times of personal growth, but it doesn’t have to be a huge event to spark change.
This same tenacity that is needed in birth is what you should bring to everyday life. You will have your ups and downs (contractions) and not everything is going to go to your ideal (birth) plan. But with the conviction to stay the course, to get back up if you get knocked down, and to chase your dreams. YOU WILL SUCCEED! You will be holding your baby in your arms, your business will grow, and you will become a stronger woman.
You will be the positive influence in your family’s life, your community, and make a lasting impact on the world. Go out there and make your dreams happen!These are times of personal growth, but it doesn't have to be a huge event to spark change. Click To Tweet