Have you ever looked through your Facebook feed, Instagram, or Pintrest (insert your favorite social media platform here) and thought, “She has it all together. How does she have time to raise her two kids, complete DIY projects all around the house, make fabulous looking dinners, and work a 40+ hour a week job?”
I want to bring your attention to perceived success vs. real life. Social Media is both a blessing and a curse. We get to see into someone’s life through snapshots. Moments in time captured. The truth is: Nobody’s life is perfect. We all have those friends who look like they have it all together in life. They seem to get so much done in the day that you think they have found the secret to time travel, or they simply don’t ever sleep.
What we don’t see is the hard work or the daily struggle. We don’t hear their inner dialogue. The truth is, we all struggle with the same things. Don’t think you are the only one. Our inner dialogue can either compare us to that ‘perfect’ life saying “I am not skinny enough, I am struggling with balancing motherhood and work, I just don’t have time…”
This might sound harsh, but you are not special. At least, not in that way.
What makes us special is that each of us have our own unique strengths. However, persistence is the key. Some say it takes 10 thousand hours to become an expert. The Grand Canyon was made over thousands and thousands of years. Nobody becomes an overnight success. Elite athletes didn’t get where they are at by exercising for a month at the beginning of the year and then quitting. Tony Robbins didn’t go from a nobody, to standing on stage in front of thousands of people and become a best selling author over night.
One thing Tony says is that you can do and be whoever you want to be. With enough work and consistent effort, you can make it. On the other hand Gary Vaynerchuk states that everyone has their own set of strengths, so don’t listen to those who say you can do anything in life, that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. He says you can’t be a pro ball player or a Guinness record holder just because you WANT to.
Both of these statements are true. My belief falls in the middle of those two camps. Your life is what you make it. It is a perceived thought. If you think you will always be poor/fat/lonely… you will be. If you believe you will be successful/fit/have lots of friends… you can make that happen too. But, in order to make that a reality you must work your ass off to get it.
My point is that you should be happy where you are at NOW, not ‘somewhere in the future’ when you get that perfect job, loose that 10 lbs, or find your perfect partner. Or you will end up at the end of your life never actually being happy. What kind of life do you want to live? One that is well lived, or one that is not quite up to your expectations?
Be happy with who you are, you are the only one. I am a mom. I am a runner. I am a nerd. I am an artist. I am an entrepreneur. I am always learning and growing. I make the world a better place. Who are you?